It’s not the judging, it’s the how it’s supposed to be that's the problem

Photo by: Naia Cancela Okking

Have you ever wondered what beauty really is, because I have.

Is what we say is beautiful really beautiful? Is what we say is weird really weird?

If you think about it, then the answers to these questions would be no. Weird, beautiful, ugly, perfect, are just words, society has created their definition. Humans have created this way of living life, a way things have to be, the only way we know something is beautiful, is because society has said so. Beauty doesn’t actually exist, just like perfect. There is no way of comparing people, if they are pretty or not, because everybody is different, there isn’t one copy of us in this world.

Think about it, it’s our ancestors that decided what beauty is, they decided that blue eyes are the most beautiful eyes, probably because they are rare, but they could have also decided that brown eyes are the most stunning eyes, things don’t have to be rare for them to be pretty. We don’t have to think what other people think, nothing is ugly and everyone has their own beauty. Flaws are not real, small noses could be flaws, we don’t judge ourselves by comparing us with other people, we judge ourselves by comparing us with the how it’s supposed to be. We look at others’ Instagrams and get jealous, but that is their body and they are only beautiful because we said so, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying they are not pretty, I am saying everyone is different and everyone is beautiful. People that bully you for your appearance are comparing you to the how it’s supposed to be and nothing more. It is up to us to decide whether we make ourselves sad, or change our mindset and accept who we are.

Society pressure limits us, it limits our thinking, it thinks for us, it decides for us, it creates bullies, it makes people sad. So let’s stop this now, let’s stop comparing, accept yourself, accept others, let’s change what was created and let’s create something better and you will see, how this world will be completely different. “To remember who you are you need to forget who they told you to be” (Author Unknown).

So next time you feel like you are not enough, think that the only reason you think that is because you are told to, think that you are your own beautiful.

I hope you liked this post and learned something new. The only way we can change this world is by leaving the supposed to be behind us, erasing it and creating a new way of living.

I am leaving you with a challenge, tomorrow tell someone they’re beautiful, don’t think why, just do and then tell them to the same thing.

Do you think you can do it?

Remember, Be You.

Naia :)